Saturday, July 18, 2009

Travelling

On a bus. 10 hours. Through the desert. Back to Algiers. More time with his family. Goodbyes. Tears. On a plane. Back to me. Finally!

He'll be home soon. I can't say when, but it will be within the next few weeks inshaAllah. We're not telling anyone here the exact day of his arrival because we need to spend some time together before Abdu comes home and before the visitors start. You know how the muslims are with their visiting and their congratulations...

I suppose I'll be back to update when he has landed. See you all soon :)

Wednesday, July 01, 2009

Takeoff

Visa FINALLY in hand. Tickets Purchased. Shopping underway. Landing on.....wouldn't you like to know?!?!

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Quick Update

I just wanted to let everyone know that my husband is not here yet... He went to the U.S. Embassy in Algiers yesterday to turn in his passport. He will pick it up, with visa, in 8 days. InshaAllah he will be flying out the middle to end of July.

I have so many things to do to prepare for his arrival, but I'll let you know when I have an exact date. As always, please keep us in your prayers. Make duaa for him to have a safe trip and a relatively easy time getting through U.S. customs. I know they will let him in inshaAllah. I just don't want him to be there too long.

Almost forgot. Abdurrahman is spending an extended vacation with my parents. They will get to spend some quailty Abdu time while I rest and prepare for my husband's arrival. I'll be back soon with details. Thanks again for thinking about us.

Saturday, May 02, 2009

The Reason

I've been on a sort of high all week, and I've barely slept. I find myself smiling for no reason at all. I still can't believe that in a few short months my husband will be home and we will be able to finally pick up where things left off two years ago. I had begun to lose hope in the last month or so. I reached a point of such desperation that I began telling everyone that I didn't think my husband would ever come home again. This approval came just when I needed it the most, and I'm so thankful for it.

Many people have asked me why my husband couldn't return to the U.S. or why was it taking so long. Others treated me as if I had done something wrong. I must have done something wrong if I, a U.S. citizen, couldn't get my spouse status in this country. Those words hurt the most because what people don't know is that I have been fighting for him for over six(6) years.

I cannot give you the entire history of what happened to him in Algeria, beginning in 1991, or what happened after he left in 1995. I can tell you that he entered the U.S. in 1999 with fraudulent documents in order to apply for political asylum. He applied for asylum within a number of months, was granted legal work authorization, and his case continued for 5 years.

We married in 2002 while his asylum was pending and I filed a petition for alien relative in February 2003. In June 2005 his asylum was denied and we appealed to the Bureau of Immigration Appeals. While that appeal was pending, our alien relative petition was approved 2.5 years after filing. Because of the type of visa he used to enter the country, he was not allowed to adjust status here to get his green card.

In late 2005 his appeal was denied, and we prepared for filing with the 8th circuit federal court of appeals. We went on with our lives. My husband continuted working legally and I graduated from college. I began working and three months later, while our 8th circuit appeal was pending, we received a notice to appear at the local immigration office. I'd written about this experience before so I will not go into details here, but that day my husband was taken into custody of immigration officials. He spent 106 days in a county jail before ultimately being sent back to Algeria.

This is where things really become complicated. Upon his departure from the U.S., he received a lifetime inadmissibility for his fraudulent entry. Had his asylum been approved, this would have been forgiven. It's a common form of entry for those who fear for their lives because they have no other way. This meant that he was banned from the U.S. for life.

In the first months of his detention/removal, we were preparing for our interview at the U.S. embassy in Algeria. For nearly a year our interview was not scheduled because he had difficulty obtaining a police clearance certificate. We finally received that certificate when I was in Algeria visiting him for the first time last year, and his interview was scheduled for July 12, 2008.

At his interview, when most intending immigrants would be issued a visa, he was denied because of his lifetime inadmissibility. We were already aware that this would happen and prepared to file to waive his inadmissibilities. One for the fraudulent entry/visa overstay and another for the deportation. We turned in a 100+ page packet prepared by our lawyer outlining the extreme hardship we would face if my husband were not allowed to re-enter the country. One would think it only makes sense that a married couple would need to live together but that is not the case.

The paperwork was turned in that day in July and forwarded over to the Department of Homeland Security in Rome. It took 3 months for his paperwork to be forwarded because of lengthy background checks. It was received in Rome in October 2008 and we began to wait again.

Finally, just his week, we were notified that we had been approved. Most people have absolutely no understanding of the complexities of immigration law in this country. A great injustice has been done to my family in the last two years, but thankfully this is almost behind us now. My husband can return to being a husband again. He can return to taking care of his son who needs him greatly. Abdu will never have to be in the hospital again without his father by his side. We will be a family again.

I urge you all to please consider supporting American families United to help others in similar situations.

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

The answer we've been waiting for

This past Saturday, I marked the two year anniversary of my husband's departure. My family and friends have faithfully stood by my side, and they held my hand that day to help me get through it.

All of our prayers have finally been answered. Today, I found out that my husband has been approved! I can't say anything. I've been screaming, crying, jumping, praying, and thanking Allah with every single breath.

I have happiness and a sense of peace inside of me that I haven't felt in a long time. I've had dreams about this day. How would we find out? How would my husband react? He was actually the one to call and tell me. I fell to the floor crying upon hearing the sweetest words, "Honey, we're approved." He sounds so relieved. I can hear it in his voice.

First and foremost, all praise and thanks to Allah for reuniting my family. Thanks to everyone, all of my brothers and sisters, in the real and blogging worlds. Your thoughts, prayes, and kind words have gotten me through this trial. May Allah reward you all greatly for what you have offered us. Ameen.

Saturday, April 04, 2009

Time

Isn't it amazing how quickly time passes? At this time last year, I was enjoying a glorious two weeks with my husband. I was able to meet my extended family for the first time. I was able to explore everything that is Algeria. I was able to be a wife again. My son was able to have his father again. We were a family.

So much can change in a year, and yet so much is still the same. I am a wife. My son does have a father. We are a family. Just a different family. A family separated by an ocean, but still going strong.

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Sunday, March 15, 2009

Conversations

Me: Habibi I'm getting soooooo OLD!

Husband: huh???

Me: You know I will be 28 in two months. Why do I have to get old?

Husband: you know you still look 21 don't you

Me: What do you want from me?

Husband: So, uh... What are you and Abdu doing today?

HAHAHAHAHA I can't even take a dang compliment anymore. If he doesn't say nice things I'm all over him. If he says something nice, I think he has an ulterior motive. He just can't win and he knows it.

BTW I was just barely 21 when we got married and at that time people thought I was 17.

I don't know what's wrong with me lately. I know that I"m not old, but I feel like in the last two years I've aged a lifetime. I've got to start taking care of my skin or I'll look like an old bag in a few years.

I'm busy in the kitchen today so hopefully I"ll have a new recipe post(with pictures) real soon.